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by Tisousou on 5/15
1st stop with the elite BS. All women have the same thing.
White women say black men treat them better that white men so what does that tell you?
The problem is sisters become complacent, disrespectful and have a feeling of entitlement after the kids. so nice guy stops.
It takes 2 to mess it up
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by James Thomas on 9/27
i cant say you wrong but i have been living in US for years, but i rarely seee an haitian woman hangout or dating a white man, im not so sure about that brother but i dont rely on it.
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by lavie, replying to James Thomas on 27-Sep-09 01:33 PM
HI JAMES, I WROTE THIS IMPRESSION SEVERAL YEARS BACK IT'S A DIFFERENT TIME LEVEL NOW. HAITIAN MAN HAVE BECOME ACULTURATED TO THE AMERICAN WAY OF LIFE. I WAS BASICALLY REFERRING TO THE 40 TO 60 AGE REGION.
IT ALSO DEPENDS ON LOCATION - THESE COUPLES RESIDE IN EUROPE AND FRENCH CARIBBEAN ISLANDS.
THANKS FOR RESPONDING - I AM A LADY NOT A MAN.
PEACE
LAVIE
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by Donald on 9/10
hi i am Donald, i have an answer to your comment.
I know why it is beacuse most Haitian man do not treat their Haitian women right.
First of all they single them out they expect them to cook every day instead of offer them to go out for dinner from time to time. Let them know that they are beautiful, take time to satisfy them first you will see a huge diffence in Haitian women
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by lavie, replying to Donald on 10-Sep-09 06:00 PM
Thanks for your comment Donald.
I made this comment about two years ago and I'm still receiving feedback from it. Well....
Donald it's an Haitian cultural aspect of life. We woman are exploring the world and seeing how other cultures live. Unfortunately for the Haitian man we woman have adapted to American culture.
We're busy with going to meetings taking our kids to soccer and foot ball practice.
It's a new way of life and living - I'm glad you understand Donald.
Peace
Lavi
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by Sous on 4/28
je pense pas quelle preferent les homme blanc, c'est meme pas une question de couleur, mais une question de respecte la femme, les homme noir ne savaient pas vraiment comment aiment sa femme, apres le mariage et les enfant il y a plus de sensualite dans le coupe pas de fantasme, les femme ne sens plus la passion aupres leur homme noir, moi je pense un homme marie ou pas ne devrais pas oublier que un coup dois toujours avoir une flamme .mais un homme blanc qui est pas de culture haitiens serais pres a nous donne, l amour qu'ont recherche
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by frantz L., replying to Sous on 05-Jul-09 01:09 AM
Bien que ce que vou disiez soit vraie, Il ne faut pas oublier que la culture haitienne n'apprenne pas la sensualite a ses fils. Nous sommes toujours une culture patrimoine.
Nos peres ne nous ont pas appris comment traiter nos epouses.
Si vous ne l'avez pas encore deviner, je suis un homme noir. Bien que j'adore ma femme tendrement, il m'est fort difficile des fois a exprimer mes sentiment a son egard, bien qu'elle connaisse mon coeur.
Bien que je vie aux EU depuis mes jeunes annees, mon education ameri-europeenne m'a expose a des cultures qui m'ont libere de mes angoisses.
Il est grand temps que les hommes haitiens sachent a ecouter au besoins sensuels de leur femmes.
Comme un vieux proverbe le dit, "Whatever it took to win your wife, will always be the same to keep her".
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by lavie, replying to Sous on 04-May-09 08:10 PM
DEAR PERSON, THANK YOU FOR RESPONDING TO MY COMMENT.
I AM SURPRISED TO HEAR FROM YOU BECAUSE IT'S BEEN A YEAR OR SO WHEN I WROTE THAT. OVER THE YEARS WITH MY ASSOCIATION WITH HAITIANS I HAVE NOTICED THIS OCCURENCE AND I CAN UNDERSTAND WHY AND TOTALLY AGREE WITH WHAT YOU ARE SAYING.
AS TIME GOES ON I REALIZE THAT IT'S NOT A COLOR SITUATION, IT'S ABOUT RESPECT, LOVE AND DECENCY.
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by lynn, replying to Sous on 02-May-09 08:47 AM
It's not even about that. White men know how to treat a lady right and most black men don't period.
Most of us, women we are after love and affection not any kind of appreciation.
we want the real thing or no deal. Some of us don't want to settle for less.
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by Catherine on 4/28
I don't even believe it this about the skin color.
It's not really that highly educated women prefer white men but it is just sometimes a white man might treat you better, understand you better.
We should not forget that expecially in the US, racism still exists despite Obama as a black president.
Some areas of this country, a mixed couple cannot live there.
One thing i believe when a white man is with a black girl, it somewhat means that he loves her because they know that not at every corner of this country they'll go, people will accept them as such. A black man when he is dating a black girl, most of the time he always act like he is all that, like the whole world evolves around him especially when he has a good career going on and put aside this, not all black men know how to treat a lady right.
He may have a good girl, like a gem in his life but still doesn't give her the proper respect, the proper attention.
White men, mostly know how to do so by bringing you flowers, gifts, at least show you they appreciate your every single little effort.
Best believe it, women loved to be treated like princesses and beside we are princesses, Some men make it believe that we are not that easy to handle but i know we are. It just that they need to know what button to press.
By saying that, i am not picturing my women and i, as objects and WE ARE NOT. I was just saying that men need to try to understand us, our needs, our wants and they'll be able to know what to do.Some black men think we are objects though, at least they portray that idea by treating us as if we were robots.
i love my haitian men but at the same i do have certain problems with some of them. Some still expect us to do anything around the house, still in this 21rst century.
i mean come on, some of y'all can help from time to time. I believe that we are all entitled to date whichever race we want as long as that one person understands us and treat us as princesses.
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by nadine, replying to Catherine on 16-Dec-09 12:28 PM
I agree with you, i believe ever women and men should date whoever they want. I notice that, when anyone date outside they race, it means that they self hate or hate they own race especially in the black community.
my mother always told me that you can marry anyone you want as long he is a good christian man, he treats you like a jewel and you bring him home. I am not entitle to the black race or to haitian men except to god.
experience.
i met 3 haitian men, and all 3 were crazy, possessive and we didn't even go out at all. I met a nigerian, OMG, the worst.
he had no manners at all, his approach was disgusting and i am still disturb by it. I know that i will be meeting alot of frogs along the way, so i have open myself up
I love my traditions and culture and i those who are different to mine, i am a cutural diverse person, i want my partner to be the same.
we all human, the only reason we have race battles is because of skin color and hair textures.
if there was a superior race and inferior race then we wouldn't able to reproduce with people who have different features, skin color or hair texture.
i tell any black female or man, if love comes your way because you didn't expect to be that image you had or have in mind, take it.
usually people who says don't marry outside your race,( black and white) are people who have hate themselves.
they want you to stay in place and never move on.
to me it;s like applying to college, your junior high school year, you have made ur mind up in one college and only apply to that college.
what are the odds you won't be accepted.
the odds are against you, you should have many choices in case the 1 st one don't come through.
you may have not like the first college if you actually got accepted.
I always tell my sister what her 1st choice should not be a haitian man or a black man. that should not be her only choices either because i know who she hangs out with.
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by marley, replying to Catherine on 18-Oct-09 06:29 PM
your comments are well put together and you are absolutely right.
I love haitian women but because of where I live (Hawaii), it's extremely hard for me to find a haitian girl so I don't have no choice but to date other races.
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by lavie, replying to Catherine on 04-May-09 08:56 PM
DEAR CATHERINE, THIS IS JUST AN OBSERVATION I'VE OBSERVED BEING IN THE HAITIAN REALM.
I TOTALLY AGREE WITH YOU BECAUSE I'VE SEEN THE ABUSE AND HAVE READ ARTICLES ABOUT THE HEARTLESS TREATMENT THAT SOME HAITIAN MEN GIVE. I SEE WHY THAT ORDINARY WOMAN NOT NECESSARILY ELITE WOMAN SEEK WHITE OR OTHER RACES.
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by Mara on 4/28
Duh!
It goes both ways. It is also common for Haitian men to want to date women outside of their race for many reasons (most the same as the reasons the Haitian women do it).
People carry around hurts from past relationships and they think trying a different race will keep them from being hurt again, or it could be a status thing where when they are making more money than they were making before they feel as though dating a white woman is an upgrade, or it could be just to be different or to impress his boys/male friends or it could be things that they grew up seeing happening between their mothers and fathers that they would not like to happen to them and they feel the only way to keep from having a relationship like their mothers and fathers relationship is to date someone from a different culture.
Whatever the reason I feel it is personal taste/opinion.
Remember we are all brothers and sisters, we were all created by one God. When we are cut with a knife we bleed red blood not blue, yellow or pink. If you need a new heart or a blood transfusion as long as there is a match they can give you the blood or organ from a black or white person.
So let's stop looking for reason why on everything and wish everyone well in their relationships regardless of who they're with.
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by lavie, replying to Mara on 04-May-09 09:25 PM
DEAR MARA, I AGREE WITH YOU MUCH, BUT FOR THE MOST PART FROM MY OBSERVATIONS HAITIAN MEN ARE A TRIP. THEY HAVE THIS MACHO/MALE THING GOING ON AND ALSO A CARRIBEAN MENTALITY - THEY COME FIRST AND HAVE THEIR WOMEN WAITING ON THEM HAND AND FOOT. I HAVE BEEN TO PARTIES AND WATCHED THE WOMAN FUSS OVER THEM AND TREAT THEM LIKE KINGS WHILE THEY ARE LOOKING AT OTHER WOMEN IN AN INAPPROPRIATE WAY. NO RESPECT - IT'S AS IF THEY BELIEVE IN THEIR HEART OF HEARTS THAT HAVING OTHER WOMEN ON THE SIDE IS A NORMAL PAST TIME. MANY HAITIAN MEN FEEL THAT THEY'RE NOT A REAL MAN IF THEY DON'T HAVE A SIDE KICK.
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by lisa, replying to lavie on 19-May-10 06:55 PM
I agree 100 percent.
I've been going to a Haitian Ballroom studio, and have been dealing with the Haitiian men/dancers for over 2 years.
I've seen that happening, and I've seen them mistreating their ladies, and aslo cheating on them. I have been yelled at, gossiped about, etc. by my Haitian instructor.
I've spent a lot of money learning how to dance, and in most cases would leave the studio in tears because of the instructor's psychological abuse.
Anyways, I stopped going there, found better places to dance at, where most of the men are white, and dance with me a lot, treat me well and make me smile, not cry.
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by lavie, replying to lisa on 19-May-10 09:42 PM
Hi Lisa, I think you are ambitious and highly intelligent.
Who would ever think of Ballroom dancing - I think it is a wonderful way to meet people.
If you really want to meet some romantic guys take up some Tango classes...
lol. I'm glad you changed schools and dancing partners and it is an enormous difference in mannerisms.
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by Mr. Unite Us on 7/1
"Elite" Haitian women prefer men with money, regardless
of skin tone.
It's not the skin color.
Poor white guys need not apply.
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by frantz L., replying to Mr. Unite Us on 05-Jul-09 12:09 AM
For all the progress we've made towards racial unity.
it still amazes me that we still, shall I say loathe inter-racial relationships.
I am Haitian.
I am from the elite class.
I came to this country when I was Fifteen years old and was educated both in Europe and the USA. I am married to a German woman whom I love very much. I married whom my heart chose.
In terms of social strata, some would say that she is below mine but she is my equal.
She is my wife and the foundation of my family.
Who are we to juge one person's affection and /attraction to another, irregardless of 'skin color'?
Why are we still perpetuating the race card?
Why can't we pass the cro-magnon stage in our lifetime?
If an 'Elite" Haitian woman choses to marry a white man so what?
We should happier that she did not marry a woman.
But then again, we're making progress, right?
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by gwozago, replying to Mr. Unite Us on 06-Jul-08 09:23 AM
I agree with Mr Unite US's statement.
Maybe some one might had writen what I'm about to write on the subjetc.
But women have been marrying men for interest since primitive time.This trend continues with poorer women electing to go to the highest bitter.
Parents in many countries would rather see their daughters marrying a well to do man, rather than settling down with a strugling man. It's an onging situation, whether it's in third world, or wealthier countries.
In more industrialized nations, young girls are encouraged to shoot for the STARS.
In fact, many White women in the states target succesful Black males, especially athlets with the dough.
In Haiti and most of the other third world countries, women associate being White as automatically being a financial asset, or being financailly succesful.
This is the main intent behind Black women going after White guys. In most cases, it has nothing to do with love, but guaranteeing a solid future.
Not to forget that some Black chics do go after White guys to have lighter skinned babies.
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by Nickie on 6/14
I agree with you on this one. People don't choose to love someone based on their race. You either like someone or you don't. The race has nothing to do with it. I do agree that some haitian men have certain expections from a woman that make her look more like his maid than his girl. But there are some exceptions and a woman should be able to stand up for herself and say no.
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by Doll87 on 6/10
I was wondering why you said it's a shame.
I personally like dating white men ......
my boyfriend is white.
Although, i'm haitian It's just about what your heart tells you to do. I do apreciate all haitian men but not dating your own race it's not a big deal. I respect all views regarding interracial dating but i don't think it's a shame dating a white men
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by bill, replying to Doll87 on 01-Jul-09 10:16 PM
Hi,
There is nothing wrong with that at all. And you're right, it isn't a big deal.I'm a white man and see nothing wrong with it. You should date what you're attracted to.
Good luck :)
Bill
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by Ricardo on 6/7
The question of a haitian women dating white men is a personal choice and matter, to each is own. I dont care about skin color but i care about uniting haiti as a nation, you better believe that most haitian women would only date haitian men, so whoever didnt, thats on them. We cant help that and thats not a threat to our national pride, all over the world there are inter racial relationship, why a haitian women one would be any different?
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by mildred Arisitide, replying to Ricardo on 29-Sep-10 10:56 PM
no I'm haitian and I only dated haitian women because they understands my problems alot more its not about skin cause skin color means nothing to us not me I just choose to stay with my own kind thats just how it is with me I don't get it people think its a skin color issue, and they just want the women cause of her good looks that means nothing to me most haitians choose to stick to their cuture, and nothing is wrong with that.
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by lavie, replying to Ricardo on 16-Jun-08 02:28 PM
I totally agree with you Ricardo, I'm not against it, I'm only relating the fact.
peace
Lavie
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