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by Susan Jones on 4/4
Because they are men. You want a loyal relationship, maybe you should think of getting a puppy.
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by Gloria Sanon on 3/20
THE QUESTON SHOULD BE WHY DO MEN IN GENERAL CHEAT.
HAITIAN MEN DON'T BELIEVE THAT THEY ARE CHEATING.
BECAUSE OF THE WAY OF LIFE IN HAITI IT ALLOWS MEN TO DOMINATE WOMEN.
SO OPENLY IT'S ACCEPTED WHEN A MAN HAVE TWO OR MORE WOMEN.
NOT JUST BY HAITIAN SOCIETY; BUT BY THE WOMEN THEMSELVES.
WHEN HAITIAN WOMEN REALIZE THAT THEY ARE BETTER THAN WHAT THEIR MEN TREAT THEM, THAT THEY DESERVE TO HAVE SOMEONE THAT LOVE AND HONOR RESPECT THEM ENOUGH TO BE FAITHFFUL, PUT THEIR FOOT DOWN AND DEMAND HONOR IN THE HOME THEN MAYBE HAITIAN MEN WILL HAVE A NEW WAY OF THINKING.
THE HAITIAN CHEATERS HERE IN THE U.S., WELL THEY ARE RIGHT ALONG WITH THE REST OF THE CHEATERS.
CHEATERS DON'T WANT TO BE CHEATED ON MY DEAR. AND AS LONG AS A CHEATER FIND SOMEONE TO CHEAT WITH, RESPECT IS OUT THE DOOR IN THE NAME OF CULTURE AND ANY OTHER EXCUSE HAITIANS, AMERICANS, ETC. CONJUR UP. MEN CHEAT AND WOMEN DO TO. AND THEY BOTH EXPECT THEIR SPOUSE TO REMAIN FAITHFUL.
ALL HAVE SINNED AND COME SHORT OF THE GLORY OF GOD
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by leslie, replying to Gloria Sanon on 23-Dec-09 11:33 AM
I enjoyed reading your words of wisdom - I appreciate someone simply telling the truth!
I want to add that women in general - it does not matter what your age or race is - we must to take pride in ourselves!!!!We must stick together!
sticking means helping each other achieve goals - when you see your mother, sister, aunt or friend hurting because some man has disrespected her - you stand up and tell her that you love her and to leave that man alone because not only has that man disrespected her but himself as well and that she does not deserve to be mistreated - remember the same man that would give a homeless dog water is the same man that would sneak around behind your back with another woman - some men value dogs more than they value women.
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by sorayah, replying to Gloria Sanon on 09-Apr-09 09:54 PM
Actually i'd love to say that we are all human beings, made of flesh and bones.
As human beings most of us tend not to have no control on ourselves.
We mostly tend to go on our instincts then on our minds.This having said, i'm not taking anuybody's sides but the cheating mostly comes from both sides.
I know some men cheaters will go on and say that the wives don't take good care of them, they don't get affection from them but i've always said that it is best to sit your spouse and talk to him or her about the relationship.Let him or her know that some things don't seem that pleasant anymore.
Just maybe they would have come around and things could have changed, as a result strengthening the bond these people share and avoiding the cheatin that i consider so low anyways.For a relationship to work, we must have trust, respect.
How can one claims he or she loves the other when their behavior towards that special someone is all about lacking respect?
We all need to take love as a serious matter people.
It all starts just right off the ground.
We need a good foundation, a good understanding of what love really means, of what love can really do and take it from there.
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by tpmeva, replying to sorayah on 21-Mar-11 05:53 PM
Communication...
Discipline ..Respect
When you love someone and they claim to love you ...
we do not expect to find out they are making sex with someone else..
I have only been in this marriage for 2 years but this weekend made the mistake of asking if he was faithful ...
he has a schedule of school...
gym..he is away from the home for 12 hours a day and does not speak alot as he is tired...
we have sex on schedule and is good but on wednesday he always comes home 45 min later and is a bit bizarre ...
he refuses to give any details of the numerous numbers he comes home with..saying they are not important and that his personality will nevr answer who they are etc...
he told me he has the right to have sex with other women and no one has the right to stop him...
that I have no right and he never would forgive me for that...
I said ok well it is a yes or no question I did not ask you to stop I only asked if you had been faithful..so with that answer I am assuming it means yes...
he said it is his choice and if he wants to change it would never be for me but because he wants to..he was extremely mad and I said that I felt it best he and I end our relationship as I never knew I would have to worry about him sleeping around...
he then threatened to kill me and almost choked me...
saying if I really want to end this..
I said I only wanted an answer and it completely escalated because I never knew he would get so crazy..
He sat beside me completely angry and silent and told me was stupid of me to ask him..saying he would never answer..said he could tell me anything...
and why was I looking for trouble...
I said it was my right to know..he said i was stupid and I am now terrified of what my future will be as I tried to calm things down by saying that I loved him and only wanted to know I was his number one he told me I needed to shut up and stop talking...
I told him he was treating me like an animal and he said it was my fault...
clearly understanding why haitian men cheat will never be known..
he wouldnt say yes or no..but his answer clearly said yes to me and I feel horrible for our 2 mnth old baby and wonder what to do..but life goes on
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by sorayah, replying to tpmeva on 18-Apr-11 04:53 PM
From what i read, i believe the man is cheating but sweetie no one deserve to be treated this way. As i have said it before, cheating on your spouse clearly shows lack of respect, lack of care. Anyone that claims to love another and cheat on that person is nothing but a liar. Trust me, you had the right to know. You are his wife, if there are suspicions, then it is okay to ask questions, it is right to lok for explanations.
I believe this seems more like an abusive relationship and no woman deserves to go through it. No matter what people will tell you or think of you, remember sweetie you are worth so much more than billions of dollars.
You are priceless, you are a GEM and God knows it. I'd love for you to ask yourself is that what you really want for your life, a life full of pain, unhappiness, violence...
Then pray God and He will lead you towards the right path, be strong and let God take full control of everything...
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by brown Sugar, replying to tpmeva on 22-Mar-11 12:24 PM
I feel bad for you .Just know that you are worth more than that.Your strong, intelligent, and able to get out of this relationship and find yourself and someone who will treat you right and make you happy.
He doesn't want to be married nor does he respect you or himself.Not to mention he put his hands on you!
GET OUT GIRL have a plan first then get yourself out of that abusive relationship...
Good luck...
much love......
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by tpmeva, replying to brown Sugar on 22-Mar-11 01:05 PM
thank you for your words..
I do believe where there is strength and courage something good can come ..I am making a plan to be free of this relationship...
an honourable man would never behave in this manner ...
I am not one to run from problems but I do not think things will get better in this situation...
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by brownsugar, replying to tpmeva on 22-Mar-11 01:53 PM
no problem stay strong, stay smart and stay ahead of the game.Know your worth sweetie ..One man's trass is another man's treasure
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by alan, replying to Gloria Sanon on 21-Feb-09 09:31 PM
I would like for the question to be asked why do people, "men and women" cheat on their spouses, as a man I have been cheated on numerous times and find it to be a most cruel humiliating experience, the betrayal is a killer.
I believe I know the answer to my own question, there is a lack of knowlege, and the fallen nature of humanity.
If the cheating spouse only could know the damage that is done to another human being they would not do it, if the cheater would stop and think about what they are doing to themselves they would never do it. I have heard cheaters talk about themselves being honest people, the most dishonest person on earth in my opinion is a cheater.
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by justice, replying to Gloria Sanon on 29-Mar-08 09:44 PM
Anthropologically, humans--men or women--are inherently polygamists.
"Cheat," therefore, is merely a social construct.
Alas, a great many humans are either unaware of or take this truism for granted.
Guess what?
Haitian men happen to be humans.
Go figure.
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by coureur, replying to justice on 11-Apr-09 11:32 AM
HOORAH!
YOU COULHAVE SAID IT BETTER.
AS HAITIAN WE SHOULD HOLD ON TO AFRICAN ROOT THEN GIVING TO WESTERN NORMS OF FAMILY STRUCTURE.
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by kmydesire, replying to justice on 14-Mar-09 04:23 PM
where did u get this information from?
men cheat cause they want to. it is one of the most selfish things a person can do. some women make it bad cause they are just a lonely and desperate to tolerate it. they dont have backbone enough to move on.
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by wify810928luv, replying to kmydesire on 14-Oct-09 01:48 AM
I dodnt get it!
I guess this topic is about why married men cheat but what happened to why do people have to catch diseases and why not start protecting ourselves?
the question is why should you care?
I am deeply concerned about this life we live let alone cheating diseases are spreading many people are living with them and wont tell you either.
scared of him cheating isnt the the question wrap it up is not even the question.....
lets stop the spread of Aids let alone that swine flue crap.....
worry about kepping family together scare the shit out these men and woman more. i would like to see a change
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by tacha, replying to kmydesire on 14-Mar-09 06:37 PM
Men cheat cause they want to and cause they are stupid point.
Men all think about busting a nut that's all they don't care about std aids, men are just stupid and dumn point blank.
That's why most of them i can't stand them especially the one's who lies saying that they are single in reality their are married, but yet poor that stupid wife thinking that she is the only one.
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by missy, replying to tacha on 03-Apr-09 01:13 AM
tasha girl, u hit that rite on da money.
men are assholes
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by louis, replying to missy on 08-Apr-09 01:21 PM
not all men. I never cheat.
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by ti Jo, replying to louis on 22-Apr-09 12:07 AM
there are a number of reasons but I can tell you from personal experience I just don, t feel like she's good enough.
I am praying one day that I meet someone that I love so much, that I will be afraid to even attept to cheat because she might leave me. The obvious reason is because they don't think you guys can leave.
Guys tell me this is procrastination.
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by eddie, replying to louis on 11-Apr-09 09:41 PM
man please, you're cheating right now just for saying you never cheat.
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by kool Rony D Love, replying to tacha on 24-Mar-09 08:15 AM
married men cheat because you women have no control between your legs, you want to make everybody feel good, dog, cat, monkey, dunkey, horses.you never satisfied, you do the dirtyest living thing, and you tryied to blame men.kool rony d love vagabon for life.
think about yourself, what you have done in your life, before brought that subject.
some men turn their back on you, now you are crying like a desperate orphan baby.
learn from your mistake ( malaka )find the meaning in greek dictionary.buy buzzin
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by ti Chouchou, replying to kool Rony D Love on 29-Aug-09 08:29 AM
hi brother, how are you doing, i'm agree whith you for certain thing, but dont let
someone get you brother, some world like that not suppos in the internet you are
a professional, dont lost your credit for a topic.
if you are the realy rony d who is the host for the festival int. cul. haitian at montreal, but behaved yourself brother, if something happend control our tempo a profesional stay a
professional brother don't forget it, god bless you peace
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by fanm Kare, replying to kool Rony D Love on 11-Apr-09 08:11 AM
If women are what you call them then you are even worst than them. How could you know al that and still want to sleep with him, ewww, soud pretty disgusting from you, don't you think.
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by rony W Decayette, replying to fanm Kare on 13-Apr-09 04:00 AM
i am sorry if i offended u, if you knew who you are, feel good about yourself
.may you are my future dream come true. i did not call individual women bad name. i love women, women is the biggest gift from god. i'always treat them good, and with respect.
my biggest fantasy in life is to have a woman next to me. review what i wrote b4, and tried to understand were i am coming from
kool rony d love, hope you are not so mad with me
you are a sweety.
bye bye
hope to see you soon. sent me a picture.
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by grobwahaitien, replying to fanm Kare on 19-Apr-09 10:05 PM
Paske nou original nou gen grobwa tout fam marie beswen kouche avek nou nou gen gro bambou.
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by nathalie Sanon, replying to grobwahaitien on 27-May-09 12:16 PM
that's so ignorant, All men cheat, believe when I say I am not sticking up for haitian men but all men do actually cheat.
Haitian just seem to have a trend to do it in 90 percent of their relationships.
I personally think this has to do with the culture its a trend.
Growing up in Haiti is hard usually it a one parent home, and if you're lucky to have a 2 parent poverty makes it hard to be happy so the men are off seeking some type of pleasure while culturally the women HAVE to stay home to cook, clean, watch the kids. The kids see this and the trend continues.
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by neglakay, replying to nathalie Sanon on 12-Jul-09 12:28 PM
HEY SIS ID LIKE TO KNOW IF YOU WOULD LEAVE YOUR MAN FOR THIS TYPE BEHAVIOR
BECAUSE MOST WOMEN DONT KNOW HOW TO HANDLE IT SO THEY LET IT GO ON. LOL
BY THE WAY
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by iisaacisanass, replying to nathalie Sanon on 24-Jun-09 06:53 PM
well this is one woman who found out her stupid, lying haitian husband was cheating and i am NOT hanging around and condoning it. i need to show my young daughter that culture or not this IS wrong and no man has the right to do it to any woman.
she will know you have to stand up for yourself.
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by soumoune, replying to iisaacisanass on 24-Jul-09 08:27 AM
Mark Sanford is not Haitian, Bill Clinton not Haitian, those are the only 2 that come to mind. that was a real stupid and narrow minded person that asked that question.
So this person is not worth wasting time answering the question
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by the Truth, replying to iisaacisanass on 28-Jul-09 11:18 AM
I would rather ask, why do married couple cheat?
for it's both ways, man and women cheat!
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by sou Moune, replying to iisaacisanass on 26-Jul-09 07:20 AM
you have reinforced my point, this is not about you in this debate the indivual is meaningless unless you personally represent the Haitians, the catalyst of the debate, if you notice involves Haitian men (general) and not lisa (individual).
I've really devoted already too much of my time trying to enlighten you,
this site focus on haitians and not you that's why i'm visiting it
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by champa, replying to iisaacisanass on 21-Jul-09 12:57 PM
Before i make my comment let me start by asking you people.
"Which other nations'married men that does not cheat?" I am not saying Married Haitian Men Cheat is right but we are living in a situation when women are too liberal and happy they get too comfortable so they decide to do dumb and stupid things but when their lives are challenged it causes them less problems and less headache.
Let's be honest for one seond!
Look around and see " a good husband that respect his wife is always getting cheat on don't see the husband that cheat on his wife is always getting more respect from his wife." Now do the math!
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by katia D., replying to nathalie Sanon on 29-May-09 01:04 PM
I totally agree with you. All man cheat.
But I do think because the Haitian Woman is more submissive to the Haitian man which allow the Haitian man to got out and cheat and she will still support him as long as he come home too her. And yes that has something to do with they way the Haitian man/woman.
culture
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by roby, replying to katia D. on 08-Nov-09 10:48 PM
I'M NOT AGREE WITH WHAT YOU SAY KATIA.NOT ALL MEN CHEAT.
THERE IS SOMETHING WE HAVE TO PUT IN PARENTHESIS"SOME HIATIAN WOMEN DON'T VALUE THEMSELVES IN FRONT OF THE HAITIAN MEN.SOME OF THEM THINK THEY DON'T HAVE FREEDOM OF SPEECH IN THE HOUSE, OR GO OUT BY THEMSELVES.ASK WHAT EXACTLY THEY WANT.WHEN THEY ACT LIKE THAT, THE MEN GONNA THINK THEY ARE A > HIATIAN WORD, MEANS WORTHLESS>>NOW THE MEN GONNA THINK THEY CAN DO WHAT THEY WANT IN THE HOUSE.THEY IMPLEMENT THEIR RULES FOR THEM.NOW DIVISION IS COMING IN THE HOUSE.
EVERYONE TAKES A ROOM IF THERE IS ENOUGH.
WEEKS OR MONTHS PASS STILL THE SAME.THEY DON'T SIT DOWN TO SOLVE THE PROBLEM, AND THE MEN WANT TO FILL THEIR NEEDS BY MAKING LOVE OR SEX. BECAUSE OF THAT, THE HAITIAN WOMAN SAY " I'M GOING TO PUNISH HIM FOR MANY MONTHS, NO KISS, NO SEX, NOTHING AT ALL"WHAT SHOULD THEY DO?CAN THEY STAY LIKE THAT?
OR GO OUT TO LOOK FOR ANOTHER WOMAN, WHO ALREADY WANTS A THING LIKE.NOW THE MEN START TO CHEAT( HIATIAN MEN)ON HER WIFE.NOT ONLY THESE ARGUMENTS, THERE ARE MORE...
IF A MAN CHEATS ON HER WIFE, BECAUSE SHE LEAVES SOME PLACES EMPTY IN THAT MAN.THE SAME TOO FOR THAT WOMAN.
MARRIED MAN AND WOMAN MUST HAVE TALKS EVERY SINGLE DAY.GIVE YOUR HUSBAND EVERYTHING HE NEEDS AND VALUE YOURSELF IN FRONT HIM, LET HIM KNOW YOUR A WOMAN LIKE THE OTHERS WOMEN.
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by maggy, replying to roby on 04-Dec-09 06:13 PM
sweety you are talking about men, not dogs. haitian men don't know what they want beleive it or not.i've been married my high school sweet heart for 10years, we been throught so much together.
i respect my house, my family, i have my associate, and my bachelor of biology premedical at barry university.
i go to work i make sure whether, i'm tired or not always make sure to make love like it was our first time when ever he wants, or i come to him, always clean myself do my hair every week. i don't leave no space for him to find an excuse.
we both on late 20's while we were so inlove, give him what he wants, please him anyway i can. he still go out in cheats.
cheats with some women.
i don't want to say it. 90% haitian men are d**.
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by roby, replying to maggy on 07-Dec-09 12:34 PM
Hello, Maggy
I really Understand what you say.But do you really give him what he wants?,Please, think about again and again.
I know there are single-parents family.They do not know how to deal with woman even they get married and even thoughh the woman give what exactly they want.Try to know if he is one like that.Read a single-parent family boook, you will know what to do and live with him.I'm really sure there is something you miss doing it.Also, do you usually tell him, you are a woman like the others woman he's hanging out.?You have to talk and be remarkable.YOu tell me you have a bachelor in Biology premedical, so I Know someone like that has many skills and knows something in psychology.Use your skills as long as you can to know your husband.
Do you have a good relationship with his family?Think what you do not make well?Did you promise him something you did not take it?
Do you have a great relationship with others that can me a little frustrated and go out as a kind of revange.That means, if you have a lot friends, he does not know them.Make him believe and believe in you, and you will see.
I know there is way to great people, if you miss one of them, he or she won't get well.Used another step with him.Ask him with kindness if you full everything he wants.
If he misanswers you, there is something you do not make well or he wants something else.
Last word, there are exception in this case, not all haitian.
I know myself.
ROBY, reply If you can
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by frankito, replying to roby on 27-Dec-09 12:44 PM
I don't really understand your point Mr. Robby.
You quoted, "But do you really give him what he wants?
I just wanted to ask you, what does he wants?
One again he mentioned that "They do not know how to deal with woman even they get married and eventhough the woman gives them what they want. Please clarify yourself and get to the point.
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by roby, replying to frankito on 28-Dec-09 02:09 PM
Hello,
I'm very happy to answer you. Before I want to know if you are a man or woman.
I see your name is Frankito.
I have answer for man and woman.
Please identify your sex, and I will get the point.
I know I can do it and like doing it a lot.Roby
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by m Yolanda, replying to roby on 22-Dec-09 06:56 PM
I think the reason why haitian men cheat it because they eat a lot of food, for instance if one haitian men have four girlfriends,#1girlfriend one plate of rice and chicken,#2 fried plantain and griot with pickliz,#3 a big bowl bouillon with beef feet in it,#4 cornmeal with black beans and fish in sauce, not all haitians men, but 50% haitians men have that behavior.
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by roby, replying to m Yolanda on 23-Dec-09 12:19 PM
Hello yolanda,
You have the right to say what you want to say.I really appreciate your point of views about that subject, but you make an illusion with married Haitian men who are living in Haiti.The situation of food you are talking about it's not really true for haitian men who are living in america.
No matter what they do, they will find food to survive, this is America, and you realy know that too.As I said a couple weeks ago, some of you, married haitian women, don't really pay attention to your husband.Not only cook, make love or sex with you husband and say I fullfil all my husband needs.
There are a lot of things behind.
surfying on the Web page you will see my views( click on ROBY) and know what you really miss doing for your husband if you got married.It's very weird to see married men cheating for food.Not good at all...
I think when a men sees a women or girl, a well-bodied women or girl, he would like to talk to her and do something else, such as love and making sex.That's in our mind as Human being and nobody can't prevent us from doing it.When your husband knows you well, he would like to taste someone else.Not only him, some of you, married haitian women.You really say, I already know my husband I wantto know if this guy make diffence and you do it.Don't give the burden to married haitian men, but you too.I'm sorry if I say that, but it's true.
Reply everyone who wants.I've weating for you.
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