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by Micheline Reid on 3/22
Well haitian men cheat and expect their wives to b understanding cuz that's just the haitian way. Wives need to know that cheating is not part of this marriage .Also it doesn't hurt to make sure you keeping things different at home, You know the strange that makes the husbands go out in the first place keep your relationship SPICY and give your husband what he wants-when he wants-and how much he wants cuz rememeber what u won't do that next b_____ch will!
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by frances Moreau, replying to Micheline Reid on 03-Aug-11 04:27 PM
that simpy immature cuz hatian men dont do it for there women it just an exuse and any women who believes it should b smacked.
I m pretty sure a hatian man wouldnt tolerat it y should a women.
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by Stillstanding on 1/15
Cheaters, liars in their childlike behavior.
They are proud of themselves when they date many women at the same time. Haitian men are selfish, eventhough they are unfaithful, they will never forgive their wive's unfaithfulness.
There is no excuse for cheating, it is wrong period.
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by micheline Reid, replying to Stillstanding on 22-Mar-11 12:37 PM
I agree and since you know you have a cheater I surely wouldnt stay with one.And remember ladies you know how it feels to be cheated on so dont recipricat the fava by cheating with a man that you know has a women.Cuz when you do that the cycle never ends and Karma will keep finding you. Alls i'm saying is do right by your sisters, two wrongs dont make a right!
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by Black Beauty on 12/23
I here you, My Haitian husband was cheating for 1 and a half years even tried to make a baby with her. She supose to be pregant but know one knows for shore if she is. He had the nerve to think I was going to except this mess. I left him and is filing for divorce.
He said to me what if she is not pregant I said the joke would be on you. After all that planning, and know baby comes out of it shame on you. You lost your wife, know baby, and you will be going back to Haiti with nothing and all the guilt of what you have done..
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by James Thomas on 9/27
that s one of the interesting subject ever, 90% of married haitian men is cheating, they aint show much love to their wives after a couple years from the marriage.
so that s right sometimes the women can t stand that and decided to revenge and that can ruin them lives.
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by peter, replying to James Thomas on 09-Oct-09 06:03 PM
its not only haitian men- but most men - most men have the desire to be with more than one woman- it is in our genes.
Look at the other mammals on this planet how many do you think have one female?
women should understand that most men- i would say more than 95% of men have had other women on the side. Its a fact of life- White Black Yellow or Red - if you are a man you are going to have another woman .
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by maggy, replying to peter on 04-Dec-09 05:45 PM
i disagreed.
i understand most men are cheat most of those men doing it with respect.
(anyway cheating is disrespectful).
, to their family, but haitian men don't cheat with respect.
once an haitian men have someoneelse on the side, they treat their family like trash, when things goes wrong with the other female, this is when they remenber, they left their family somewhere, they have to go back, to pick up the rest. beleive it or not there is a big consequences out of it.
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by Haitiansweety on 9/15
because they don't think they have enought at home
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by mandy, replying to Haitiansweety on 12-Jun-11 09:12 PM
thats truly right there lady dont do it good enough so they look else where for it
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by putgodfirstplace2011, replying to mandy on 18-Jun-11 07:15 PM
i don't think so mandy, i simply think they do it because they don't truly fear GOD. Also, i hope you do it all for yours, because no matter what you i think.
Men will continue to cheat on their spouses as long as sin exist.
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by alix2, replying to Haitiansweety on 22-Oct-09 11:32 AM
i cheat all my life and i enjoy it not because i dont have enough at home but it is a challenge
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by s, replying to alix2 on 06-Jul-11 10:49 AM
shut your ass up you nasty cum what is wrong with you?so you think this is a joke .what about diseases aint you not scared of that if i was dating you as Girlfriend i would cut your pennis off.
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by Devin Richard on 9/15
because they don't think they have enought at home
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by Princess on 8/13
I see that I'm very late responding to this topic.
I was browsing and I found it to be very interesting.
Both men and women cheat, not all but many. I believe some men cheat because they feel that they are missing something.
It could be love, affection, sex, or many other things.
When these wives don't give their husbands what they want, of course they are going to get it somewhere else. I believe that a wife should satisfy her man in all ways. Alot of wives just get too comfortable and start neglecting their husbands and themselves.
Tell your husband that you love him and that he's sexy. Tell him how proud you are of him. Give him some love and affection.
Impress him. Get the hair and feet done and wear something nice. The best thing to do is talk to your spouse.
Instead of screaming and cursing, sit down and TALK!
If you leave space unfilled, someone else will come in
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by jewwell, replying to Princess on 12-Sep-09 09:54 AM
I have to agree with Princess, I am an American Woman married to a Haitian man. I believe you have to continue to nurture your relationship, respect one another, and trust.
Initially I did not get a very positive response from Haitian women when we started dating.
However, after the preconceived stereotypes were smashed, they were able to see the respectful, professional woman that I am. I thank God that my husband and I have not had any issues with infidelity in our relationship, as we continue to respect each other, and insure that all of our needs are met.
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by blackbeauty, replying to jewwell on 16-Nov-09 10:03 AM
I am an American Woman married to a Haitian man. I thought he was so in love with me, So he says. But i realize he had to many women friends that he end up having a relationship with one of those female friends.
Of course he blame me for his affair.
My belief is having so much involvement with other women leads to cheating.
Because i was not in agreement with him having so many female friends our marriage went down hill. There was another young lady that he talk to 3 to 4 times a day, he said they where only friends and he new her before me. I confront the lady and she said she did not know him. That went on for 2 years after marriage.
4 years after that he had the affair.
Women would give him there numbers all the time. He has over 20 women numbers in his phone.
But the Haitian Community was worried about me not knowing that my husband is not a honest or trustworthy man. He still claims how much he loves me. I say action speaks louder words.
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by carolyn, replying to blackbeauty on 21-Dec-09 11:46 PM
i feel what you are saying / iam in the same thing .the only different thing is my haitian husband that i am still marry to now .i believe he has went back to haita and has got married to his 15month baby motherlast year. but i have no way to find out if he is married to her.and to top it off her told me that his has 16kids in the usa .he has only been here in the usa since 1992.but me &him dont have no kids. (someone please help me )
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by black Beauty, replying to carolyn on 23-Dec-09 09:14 PM
Carolyn, you can do a non contest divorce.
Get out of that marriage!!!!!!!!!
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by black Beauty, replying to carolyn on 23-Dec-09 09:09 PM
Caroline, I am so sorry about what you are going through.
It is horrible what these men are doing to us American women.
God will deal with him, he think he is getting away and i am praying that he do not get away with what he is doing.
I left my husband and filing for divorce on Tuesday.
I don't trust him and i am moving quickly before he can run.
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by carolyn, replying to black Beauty on 23-Dec-09 10:02 PM
thanks alot, he has been cutting up for 11yrs like this. but i ask (god) what he wanted me to do .
i am moving on in 2010. i though haitia men where now men .
but now i can say from me being marry to a haitian man .they are (HORES).
i will say this to all my (AMERICAN) womens - PLEASE DO NOT GO THEIR> BECAUSE IF YOU DO JUST REMEMBER I TOLD YOU THAT YOU ARE GOING TO (H_A_T_E) YOUR SELF IN THE LONG RUN. LOTS OF THINGS HAPPEN IF YOU ARE A AMERICAN WOMAN MARRY TO A (F_ HAITIAN).
SORRY FOR FEELING LIKE THAT HAITIAN MENS.
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by black Beauty, replying to carolyn on 24-Dec-09 12:53 PM
I have to agree with you about Haitian men. My familiy thought he was just like the rest of them and I thought he was different, boy was I wrong.
I will be married for 5 years Jan. I am filing for divorce by December 31st. All his male cousins are the same way. His one cousin did the same thing to his Americian girlfriend and had children by a Haitian girl. The girlfriend passed away and the cousin moved in with the Haitian girl a month after the Americian girl passed away. What a dog!!!!!!!
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by Hugs-n-kisses on 7/6
Two reasons why men cheat: 1. Because they can 2. Because there are women out there who are willing to cheat with them. So now as women we can only ask ourselves: Are we part of the solution or the problem?
If you allow you man to cheat and then sweet talk his way back into your bed and your heart then you are condoning his behavior.
Lets face it some women out there only date married men, why I don't know. I can only guess that they were born to be hoes, mistressess, booty calls, etc. but never born to be a wife. Because lets face it men marry women they respect and sleep around with the ones they don't. So which are you?
But all in all two questions would be: why do you allow your man to cheat on you and why do some women cheat with married men?
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by wify810928luv, replying to Hugs-n-kisses on 14-Oct-09 12:41 AM
you are the best i love you for that what you are stating is real please give more info i love how you talk i feel you a lot that was just real!
wow
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by jewwell, replying to wify810928luv on 13-Nov-09 03:17 AM
Hi wifey, so sorry I didn't get back to you, just got your message.
What is your stand on this subject?
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by plum, replying to Hugs-n-kisses on 05-Aug-09 10:33 PM
I just wanted to say. I don't think that women who date married men are hoes, booty calls or etc...
Everyone's situations are different so don't judge.
Also, why does the wives of these men stay with them even after their husband showing them no respect by cheating.
If these men had respect for their wives than they wouldn't cheat.Some of these women have low-self esteem and it sad that they would settle for less. Don't blame women who date married men. It takes two to tangle.
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by mother-1, replying to plum on 03-Nov-09 09:15 PM
THERE ARE THOSE WHO TRY SO HARD TO JUSTIFY THEMSELVES FOR CHEATING.
BOTTOM LINE IS AS SOME HAS SAID BEFORE, SOME WOMEN ARE HAPPY TO BE THE BOOTY CALL, THE WHORISH ONE, ETC. AND OR THE OTHER WOMAN.
IT SEEMS TO ME THE OTHER WOMAN SHOULD WANT BETTER FOR THEMSELVES AND STOP BELIEVING THE LIES THAT CHEATING MEN SOMETIME TELL: "I'M GONA GET A DIVORCE BABY, JUST GIVE ME TIME." MOST HAITIAN MEN GUARD HOME LIKE A PIT BULL, WHILE THEY LIE THROUGH CLENCHED TEETH TO THE OTHER WOMAN WHO OFTEN TIMES LISTEN.
JUDGE WITHIN YOURSELVES: WHO IS CONSIDERED THE DUMMY, THE WIFE FOR STAYING WHO HAS PROMISED TO STAY THROUGH THE BETTER OR THE WORST?
OR MADAME OTHER?
THE WIFE HAS MADE A PROMISE TO GOD AND HER HUSBAND, WHAT'S THE OTHER FEMALE'S EXCUSE.
TO ANY MARRIED FEMALE THAT IS BEING CHEATED ON THIS I SAY TO YOU, CHEATING IS YOUR GET OUT OF HELL CARD THAT THE BIBLE HAS GIVEN YOU TO GET OUT OF THAT DEFILED RELATIONSHIP.
BUT JUST IN CASE YOU WANT TO STAY, BABY THAT'S YOUR CHOICE DEAL WITH IT IF YOUR LIFE IS NOT THREATENED.
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by wify810928luv, replying to plum on 14-Oct-09 01:02 AM
o please the only reason you would think that these purpotrades we call homw wreckers are't so called sluts, or hoes, ect is because you probably deal with married men yourself!
that is why you say we shouldnt judge.
I personaly dont like that statement for the simple fact what would it be like for you if you were in a wifes shoes.
how in the hell would you know hes cheating?
if hes acting hih?
how in the hell would you know so you cant say that and if you have given 7 years of your whole life a child and a beautiful marriage, who in the hell out there right mind will put off such a family you dont always have to end a happy home just because of his decieving!
it could just be an illnes an addiction that needs to be looked at im not gonna just walk away from my family just because of his mistakes love is such a strong thing to give up on we made vows you die with those vows.And first of all once this hoe becomes aware he is a married man what in the hell is she still prosuing anything with him. you just say no!
hell, there is some0ne for every0ne.
A woman like that to me is sick because she is helping him commit adultery.
she helps him leave behind his children she doesn't care she is a whore.
If i love my man i will give him is space i will understand his needs i will love him all the way we will find out why when i do become aware he sneaks off i wont push him to do it i will love him all the way he wont want to leave.
wify810leO928libraluv bet u didnt kn0xoxoxOX0 mylife as his wife
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by katy, replying to plum on 11-Aug-09 01:28 PM
i agree wit u one hundred percent plum!
first of all men cheat..not only haitian men..and second of all ppl always claim that a women who sleeps wit a marriend man always have low self esteem which is not true at all..all women does not want to settle for less...
men are just sneaky conniving human beings and u camn never ever put ya trust in them...
whether or not they are always good in the beginning but eventually they will show their true colors..its hard out there to find a real true man out there in these metropolitan cities...
its hard to find a real man who really loves u enough not to cheat..theres a pool of women out there..what makes u think they wouldnt cheat?
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by wify810928luv, replying to katy on 14-Oct-09 01:17 AM
o yes ppl can put an end to this mess. We are the creators of our problems its all in the mind. i dont commend you on that statement not being able to trust you have to be able to have self trust if you believe in yourself then there is no reason not to believe in him and if you love him you have to trust him praise him do what ever it takes to hold a man down. men are out there doing dirty because you allow it. trust me on that you are either bitching and naggiging all the time you worry about yourself you may be a needy person, insecure or just downright lazy. you have to be able to understand your man and the reason why hes unfaithful.
of course there are many of us beautiful woman i guy cant resist but not all of them are like that guys need attention, they need to be loved like a baby, you have to give it to them change your sex patterns at home maybe sweet talk them to sleep prepare and surprise them its a woman who allows her man to stray remember when you first met?
ask yourself what changed?
want he loving you so much he was in love and he still is you have to find away to maintain that same love you first found with him. its what we create inside our minds to make this whole picture true you are doing this to yourself believe it. A man would not want to cheat if you took care of your self worth, mind, and spirit.
he doesnt have to lo0k else where if you'd just understand him.
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by da, replying to wify810928luv on 24-Oct-09 06:02 PM
people who cheat lack charcter and you need therapy.
Get some self esteem, it is not your fault your husband is cheating on you.
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by fara, replying to katy on 09-Sep-09 11:53 AM
Men cheat not just haitian men, but most men. They cheat because it makes them feel like they are the man. A lot of men have low self esteem, so they try to see how much womem they can get in bed. The more women they get, the more their ego is struck.
They dont think about disease or how they hurt the person that they are with.
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by donald, replying to fara on 10-Sep-09 11:15 AM
Hi Fara i am Donald a true Haitian Man that do not cheap on my wife .First of all she a beautiful Haitian Woman and there is no need to cheat on her we have been married for more than 20 years she is just like a very rare red wine she is a vantage woman, i have no need to settle for less. Second of all we always find time to do things together such as going on vacation going out for dinner or out dancing .and finally we work together as a couple we manage to enjoy life together.you are right most of the man out there are dogs, they leave their beatiful wine or girlfriend at home and go search for lesser woman than they have at home.
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by wify810928luv, replying to donald on 14-Oct-09 01:24 AM
donald you are a blessing there should be more of you out there for our children of the future.
good man you are bless you please comment and send more info to these woman who cant understand.
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by fara, replying to donald on 14-Sep-09 07:10 PM
Very few men think the way you do. Im happy for you and you wife. You are both luck to have found a love and relatinonship like that. I wish you 50 more years of happily ever after with you wife.
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by donald, replying to fara on 16-Sep-09 11:20 AM
Thank you .and may God bless you .Those men that do not think like me honestly i have rejected a lot of them as friend .those men think the will get a other shot at life, every day that is gone is a day lost, that day will never pass by again .I always wish the best for every one, i even have female friends that hated me because i am too honnest an sincere.
i told them it is better to hate me innocent than to hate me for my guilt.
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by hard357, replying to fara on 09-Sep-09 12:41 PM
Men cheat because they can, plain and simple it not because of low self esteem, its the woman that keeps a cheating man with the low self esteem.
Coming from a man I can say that the guy gets bored with who he is with and wants to venture outside of his relationship.
"Well why doesnt he just break up with his girl/wife?" Well he is comfortable thats why, plain and simple.
If you have a guy that has cheated on you more than twice, well guess what HE WILL ALWAYS CHEAT!.Until he can find something better that woman (girl/wife) might as well be out the door (in certain situation).
How do you stop a cheating man?
To all the ladies in the world my answer is..
dont put up with his bullshit, there is a routine to almost everything.
Your man steps outside his normal routine, better start asking questions.
His phone, get fimilar with it. Any guy that gets upset about you going through his phone he is hiding something.
In all after the first time you forgive after the second time you let him go. Anything after that you signed up for a real stressfull relationship.
GOODLUCK!
Although I do believe your title should say "Why do married men cheat".
Cause if it was just haitiam men, my question to you is why do you date or marry a haitien man knowing that this is what they do?
I would than suggest that you date outside of your race for a assumed better experience.
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by dval40, replying to hard357 on 20-Oct-09 09:21 AM
It's not only hatian men. I saw how my uncle did his wife wrong so I married a Puerto Rican, well I'm going through hell. By the way why do african american women like married men so much?
I find those women have no self respect.
Is it just me?
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by blackbeauty, replying to dval40 on 17-Nov-09 05:42 PM
Hi Dval40,
I am African American and when I was single, i would run from married men. I believe that God is not please with man or women messing with his marriages.
I have enough to answer for and that is one problem I don't want to deal with. The answer to your question women are just stupid for messing with married men, they think they are going to take the men from there wife. Most of the time the joke is on the other woman.
I am married and there was a another woman and she thought she was going to take him from me. Like my husband said she will cheat on him too.
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by Lovely on 7/1
Haitian men are not the only men on earth to be blame; this is something that comes from both male and female regardless of your nationality, background or color.
We Haitian women always believe that Haitian men are not good, they are cheaters, they don't know how to take good care of their women but it is all wrong.
We Haitian women have the same problem as well, no one is perfect.
I also believe that women sometime push them to do things they were not intended to do; the problem I have with those Haitian women accusing their men of cheating is that before marriage they used to dressed sexy, always looking pretty and once they left the alter and got the men they want everything else change.
We need to stop thinking about negative things just focus on how to keep your men or women from cheating, don't leave any space, gap or any door passage open for someone else to interfere in your marriage, learn about your lover what he or she wants, likes, or don't. Make each other proud.
Please ladies stop believing in what your girlfriend or family members are saying about your man and the same for goes also for the men.
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by robert M. St Fleur, replying to Lovely on 16-Jul-09 07:34 PM
Cheating between men and women is 50/50; avoid pressing charges on each other.
Remember that men do not go out with an invisible creature or any type of animal.
A man always cheats with a woman somewhere down the road. I was taking a sociology class, that question pops up in one of the exams, every student in the classroom missed out the answer.
it was:
Choose the right answer
a) men cheat 90% of the time, women cheat 10%
b) women cheat 60% of the time, men cheat 40%
c) men cheat 50% of the time, women cheat 50%
d) women cheat 5% of the time, men cheat 95%
The right answer was C; it makes lots of sense; usually a female and a male have sex; it's always two people and not one to be blamed.
Some female students in the classroom declared that one bad women go out with different men; it makes all women look bad. The class included the Teacher did not buy it; A lot of married females are cheating out there;
a) Women tell half of the story to the best friend
b) Complete opposite to the husband
c) Only God knows the whole truth
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by Jo on 5/7
The same reason why any man cheat...
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