Communication...
Discipline ..Respect
When you love someone and they claim to love you ...
we do not expect to find out they are making sex with someone else..
I have only been in this marriage for 2 years but this weekend made the mistake of asking if he was faithful ...
he has a schedule of school...
gym..he is away from the home for 12 hours a day and does not speak alot as he is tired...
we have sex on schedule and is good but on wednesday he always comes home 45 min later and is a bit bizarre ...
he refuses to give any details of the numerous numbers he comes home with..saying they are not important and that his personality will nevr answer who they are etc...
he told me he has the right to have sex with other women and no one has the right to stop him...
that I have no right and he never would forgive me for that...
I said ok well it is a yes or no question I did not ask you to stop I only asked if you had been faithful..so with that answer I am assuming it means yes...
he said it is his choice and if he wants to change it would never be for me but because he wants to..he was extremely mad and I said that I felt it best he and I end our relationship as I never knew I would have to worry about him sleeping around...
he then threatened to kill me and almost choked me...
saying if I really want to end this..
I said I only wanted an answer and it completely escalated because I never knew he would get so crazy..
He sat beside me completely angry and silent and told me was stupid of me to ask him..saying he would never answer..said he could tell me anything...
and why was I looking for trouble...
I said it was my right to know..he said i was stupid and I am now terrified of what my future will be as I tried to calm things down by saying that I loved him and only wanted to know I was his number one he told me I needed to shut up and stop talking...
I told him he was treating me like an animal and he said it was my fault...
clearly understanding why haitian men cheat will never be known..
he wouldnt say yes or no..but his answer clearly said yes to me and I feel horrible for our 2 mnth old baby and wonder what to do..but life goes on