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by Malo on 1/3
Why should your race dictate your who you love and marry, the majority of my family is mixed and white, with a small group of darker people.
Love is love and you don't have to adhere to some rule, where you marry your own race, beside interracial marriages are on the rise.
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by Kevin on 7/26
wow where to start...
well I'm a white Jewish/christian male, 25 years old with a B.B.A in finance and my fiancee is a black christian Haitian woman with her B.S.A in nursing.
She is an RN and I am a personal banker.
While we have MANY differences, we have been together for 4 years now and are getting married next spring.
I'm very sorry you feel this way however love happens between two people and whatever their race, religion ETC may be, that should not matter.
Our families love one another and EVERYONE in both of our families are very supportive of our relationship.
I have felt and received nothing but love and support from her family and EVERY Haitian I have met has been very supportive of us. I speak some french and creole and they love when i converse with them in their language.
The most important thing to her family was my belief in Jesus Christ as lord and savior and how i treated her. My skin color was of NO importance.
What happened many years ago had NOTHING to do with either of us. It is unfortunate you feel that you must generalize every person of a certain race. ALL races have good men and bad men and good women and bad women.
We both love learning about our individual cultures.
Just because our skin may be different shades we all are born, grow and die the same. We all breath the same air. My question to you and all others is why does the color of one's skin matter SO much???.
what is it about two people with different skin colors that draws such debates?
slavery was a very long time before either one of us was born so why would that have ANYTHING to do with our relationships?
We live in Philadelphia and we get nothing but smiles when we go out. Now if people say things behind our backs who knows but we have never dealt with people who did not like our relationship due to the difference in our skin colors.
anyways I hope the LORD touches all those hearts who think that skin color is a barrier because we are ALL children of GOD and he does not care what skin color we are. so i pose the question once again to Lisa and all others...
what is it about two people who have different skin color being together that is so wrong?
I respect ALL opinions of everyone and lets please have an educated adult debate.
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by marc, replying to Kevin on 06-Aug-09 07:14 PM
Hey kevin, i'm a haitian man with bs in business financial services and i'm married to a white woman who is an rn. I'm a fulltime police officer and part time substitute teacher.
We are financially and sexually happy.
We have a 3 year old biracial son together and planning on maybe having 2 more, God willing.
Why do you allow these small minded jealous statements by these lonely looney idiots get to you my friend.
I didn't marry a white woman because i'm weak or couldn't get a black woman.
Hell, i get hit on by black women in their 30's almost everyday at work. I'm all about interracial dating.
I'm happy for you and your fiancee and hope that things work out for you. If these jealous people had a sigficant other and were happy, then they wouldn't be making these malicious comments towards interracial couples.
Go on and make some cute biracial babies my friend.
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by bodna, replying to Kevin on 30-Jul-09 01:10 PM
kevin may God bless continue to bless your relationship, continue to love your girl as God love the church.
you are a wonderful young man who have a strong faith in God, which is the best gift and weapon you can use to walk this life. Congratulation Blood of Jesus cover's you both. Enjoy and love each other for as long you both shall live. Bless you both again.
kimbe la timoune pa okipe person moune yo la pou kritike sa ki bon
I am also a Christian Haitian woman age 30 married with 2 beautiful boy God bless my husband and I with, I love and praise God for my precious gifts, my husband and my children.
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by Z on 7/18
"It pains me to think some of you people would consider dating the same people who have oppressed us for generations & would dare to say they treat us better.
You black women & men should be ashamed of yourselves & would never be worthy enough to share real love by other black women or men."
You're the one who is ignorant.
Terribly, terribly ignorant.
White people are not at fault for all the world's problems and not at fault for all that black people have suffered.
Blacks sold each other into slavery, which is how it all got started to begin with...
learn your history.
You're obviously angry about all that people have filled your head with, but you need to look at yourself and quit condemning others just because they don't have your ethnic background and skin color.
You aren't enslaved...
you're free, so what's your problem?
Wake up and open your mind. We're in the 21st century and people are people.
We need to love and accept each other, not condemn each other (which is infantile and foolish!)
No one has to be ashamed because they date and marry interracially simply because you have a closed mind and an angry heart...
who made YOU everyone's judge?
Who made you GOD?
But you have plenty to be ashamed about with that terribly ignorant, unloving, and judgmental attitude of yours!
Wake up!
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by Sylvain Bedard on 7/12
Hi,
I am somewhat disappointed by your views.
I am a white man dating a lovely Haitian woman and the fact that we are from different race never really came into deciding if we should pursue the relationship.
How are we to say how love will enter into one's life?
I find our relationship refreshing and exciting and I am quite happy with her. I am aware of the wrongs done by the white people in the past and Haitians should be proud to have acheived their independence.
Does that mean that we should never respect each other?
I hope not.
I wish you the best, may God bless you
Sylvain B.
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by Rifche on 7/1
I love you Lisa so much, that is the true!
my e mai is rifche90 at yahoo.com I am from Africa, i found that black women are the most beautiful inside and out. Thank you thank you
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by Regiane on 5/16
Wow, talk about ignorant...
It's difficult to find where to even start with your comment.
YOu are correct in saying that it's absurd for anyone Haitian or otherwise to make the statement that white men treat women better than black men, but the true ignorance in this comment comes from someone trying to dictate to others who they should and should not date. Hoping to share your "educated" life with a black man is great...
for you and your preferences.
I on the other hand hope to share my life with a man who treats me well, loves me, and respects me. Whether or not that man is black or white, Asian or Hispanic are unimportant in that equation.
Your remark here just helps to illustrate that the gulf between education and wisdom is greater than most people fully realize.
Now as for your statistics about interracial marriage...
so what.
First of all, 70% of interracial relationships involving black men and women makes sense if you consider that >80% of interracial relationships involve black and white partners and those two groups make up 250 of the 298 million people living in America.
That number jumps to 256 million if you consider people describing themselves as of mixed race ethnicity.
As for the "oppressor" tack you're taking...
I'm not sure what to make of that. I'm tempted to ask if you mean that as a Haitian or a black woman, but ultimately it doesn't even matter.
People like you will always fault the white man as a fallback method of defending your racism.
While the fact that blacks in America have been oppressed by society is inescapable the VAST majority of white men and white women in the united states today are no more to blame for that flawed system than say, penguins in the antarctic.
You're the one who is ignorant and it is your own skewed viewpoint that you should be ashamed of.
Okay, back to trying to find Haitian events in Atlanta instead of bickering with "educated" morons.
"I'm not African-American, I'm Haitian-American
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